If you are a minister’s wife you know you wear many hats. One of those hats will be attending a wedding where he is officiating. What does that have to do with you, you might ask. A lot. Here are the high points of attending a wedding your husband is officiating (in no particular order):
1. Look your best. This might seem like a given but make your husband proud to introduce you.
2. Make sure he looks his best. My husband recently reminded me that as the minister they are in almost every picture that is taken during the ceremony.
3. Be calm. The day of a wedding can be stressful (for everyone). Do not make that stress worse. Be a calm and peaceful presence when you enter a room.
4. Carry a big purse. For weddings I keep the following items in my purse: my husband’s leather binder, a lint roller, Static Guard, breath mints, chap stick, and flats for me. During the wedding my purse also contains my husbands phone and his keys.
5. Know the flow of a wedding. Like I said earlier, weddings can be stressful and just like forgetting how to read during your ACT you can also forget the order of a wedding. We usually keep the program of every wedding my husband does because at some point in pre-marital counseling they will ask, “Do you know when we’re supposed to do communion?” If there is not an official wedding coordinator a lot of questions will be directed at your husband in regards to the flow of the wedding so make sure he has a good answer.
There are tons of other tips for ministers and weddings but I know a lot of young minister’s wives that need some practical advice BEFORE their husband does his first wedding. If you have any other bits of wisdom/questions feel free to comment.